The following entries (from beginning runner to half marathon finisher) represents a continuing journey of tremendous grief and sorrow, and of transformation - largely through the therapeutic power of running. The sorrow that has broken my heart open wide has in time allowed me to experience the beauty of being in the present moment. And of course, without the support of family and friends to guide me, I would not have made it this far.

If you have lost someone in your life, I offer these words and verse (some Kristy's, some mine and others) with the hope it may touch your heart and help you heal.

Friday, June 19, 2009


Kristy underlined this passage in Song of Solomon, by Toni Morrison

You just can't fly on off and leave a body he tole me. A human life is precious. You shouldn't fly off and leave it. He meant that if you take a life, then you own it. You responsible for it. You can't get rid of nobody by killing them.

This concept has many implications. What I chose to believe is that we are all connected. What you do and what you say have a lasting effect. You get out of life what you put into it and you are responsible for your actions. There is a consequence for everything. This is the law of the living and the dead, the good and the bad, the conscious and the unconscious.

We are not walking alone.


  1. Kristy's depth still amazes me. What a great passage.

  2. Isn't it true that just as we can't get rid of anybody, neither can we get rid of ourselves - we have an unavoidable responsibility which we can choose to meet with dread or excitement - that is a choice. Kristy's character traits, and values are more than simply memories of her - they are like votive candles - we can keep them burning by choosing to make them our traits and values just as she did. How better to remember her than to pull the oar with as much joyful acceptance of all of life's challenges as did she?

  3. you can't get rid of nobody by killing them.

    someone else once told me that too.

    you have made me indestructible