The following entries (from beginning runner to half marathon finisher) represents a continuing journey of tremendous grief and sorrow, and of transformation - largely through the therapeutic power of running. The sorrow that has broken my heart open wide has in time allowed me to experience the beauty of being in the present moment. And of course, without the support of family and friends to guide me, I would not have made it this far.

If you have lost someone in your life, I offer these words and verse (some Kristy's, some mine and others) with the hope it may touch your heart and help you heal.

Wednesday, February 18, 2009


Kristy - in perfect balance

This morning I watched Bill Moyer's Journal. One of his guests was Nikki Giovanni, a former activist and present day poet. She has released a new book of poetry entitled, "Bicycles." You can watch the whole interview and see a transcript at

In his interview, Moyers asked Giovanni, "What do words do for grief?" Giovanni smiled and said, "They let us know that we're not alone. What words do is we acknowledge that we are human and we hurt. So you don't have to pretend you're not hurting, because you have a hole in your heart."

"What do bicycles have to do with tragedy and trauma, loss and death?" Moyers asked. Giovanni replied,"Tragedy and trauma are wheels and they are always with us, aren't they? They are always spinning around. That's the parameters of life - that's the tragedies - they just spin around and spin around. And so what you're trying to do is bring them together. And when you bring them together you've got the bar, right?

When I grew up you learned to ride a bicycle by getting on a bike which means you're gonna fall off. And love, life and bicycles are about trust and balance. It's about riding it and believing that this thing that doesn't make sense for you to be on, can move... It's just trust and balance."

More tomorrow on what this amazing woman shared of herself. (P.S. The sun came out today!!)


  1. I really appreciate the incorporation of other people's wisdeom and ways of expressing ideas and emotions that you include in your blog.

  2. I guess I am just reaching for anything and everything, trying to find something to help fill the emptiness. Some concepts contain what seems to be a simple wisdom, but then again much of what I read is still beyond my grasp. The question seems to be, when does it cease to be one person's wisdom and become your own?