The following entries (from beginning runner to half marathon finisher) represents a continuing journey of tremendous grief and sorrow, and of transformation - largely through the therapeutic power of running. The sorrow that has broken my heart open wide has in time allowed me to experience the beauty of being in the present moment. And of course, without the support of family and friends to guide me, I would not have made it this far.

If you have lost someone in your life, I offer these words and verse (some Kristy's, some mine and others) with the hope it may touch your heart and help you heal.

Saturday, March 7, 2009


Today an article came out in the San Jose Mercury News regarding the crash that killed my daughter. The one year anniversary will be on Monday, March 9.

San Jose News Paper Article

My sister Kim and I will travel to be with Laurissa today and plan to stay with her for a few days.

We miss you Kristy. You are always on my mind and in my heart.


  1. If anyone comes to this blog now, a year after Kristy's death, I would recommend they take the time to read from the earliest date - Kristy comes alive in the memories of Karen and others, with photographs and some of her own writing. She lived philosophically, affecting those who knew her in a quiet demonstration of character, but through this blog she is revealed as a unique spirit whose life challenges, inspires, and provokes one to give thought to how life should be and can be lived in other contexts. At the same time, reading Karen's daily thoughts about Kristy demonstrate how she has survived, partly through her own struggle to deal with this loss, but also through the assistance that comes to her from knowing how Kristy would have met a similar challenge. This blog is interesting and saddening but it is also entertaining and inspiring. It will make you a more thoughtful person.

  2. We welcome back Karen to this blog when she returns from her time out. She is a lady of insight and strength who deserves to be read. Sooner or later we shall be faced with crisises of our own. I hope we can show the class that Karen has demonstrated. Bravo to you. Peace.